A wedding gift list (or registry) that spares your guests the guesswork
Guests want to give you something you will actually use. Left to guess, they buy three of the same vase. A list is not greedy — it is the kindest thing you can hand someone who has already bought a suit and booked a hotel.
Anna & Tom's wedding list
8 gift ideas ·Wedding ·in 238 days ·1 already reserved
Cast-iron pan, 28 cm
The heavy kind that outlives us both.
Linen napkins, set of 8
Espresso machine
Big one — very happy for people to club together.
Picnic blanket
One list, two of you, any shop
Put the list under one of your profiles and share the single link with everyone. Anything you can link to keeps its photo and price; anything you cannot — a contribution to the honeymoon, a lesson you want to take together, help with the garden — you write in your own words.
Mark the two or three things you would genuinely love as top wishes. Guests are relieved to be told.
How to tell your guests
The list is only awkward if it is announced badly. Three wordings that work, depending on how formal the day is:
- On a formal invitation insert. "Your presence is the only gift we need. For those who have asked, we have put a few ideas at yourwishpage.com/anna-and-tom."
- In a relaxed message or on the wedding website. "Please don’t feel you have to bring anything. If you’d like to, there’s a short list here so nothing arrives twice: [link]."
- When the wish is a contribution. "We have everything we need for the flat, so our list is mostly a honeymoon in Lisbon. Any amount towards it means more than you would think."
Every list has a QR code you can download and print, which suits insert cards and table plans: guests point a phone camera at it and the list opens with nothing to type. The words above go with it, not instead of it.
Anna & Tom
No gift expected
Scan for a few gift ideas
yourwishpage.com/anna-and-tom/wedding
What to put on a wedding gift list
Aim for twenty to forty things across a spread of prices, so a colleague and a grandparent can both find something that feels right. Guests read a mixed list as generous, and a list of ten expensive things as a bill.
| Area | Examples | Typical range |
|---|---|---|
| Kitchen | A good knife, a cast-iron pan, a stand mixer, the coffee machine you keep visiting in the shop | €30 to €400 |
| Table | Everyday plates and glasses, a set of linen napkins, a serving platter, a carafe | €20 to €150 |
| Home | Bed linen in the right size, towels, a lamp, a rug, a frame for a wedding photo | €25 to €200 |
| Garden and outdoors | A pair of good chairs, tools, a planter, a picnic blanket | €20 to €250 |
| Experiences | A cooking class together, a weekend away, tickets, a wine tasting | €40 to €300 |
| Contributions | A night of the honeymoon, a share of a big item, a charity you both support | Any amount |
Put a line on the expensive items saying that people are welcome to club together. Whoever reserves one then knows to gather others rather than pay for all of it, and the group gift page explains how that usually works.
Nobody sees what anyone else has spent
A visitor sees which gifts are taken and who is bringing them, so plans do not collide. What they do not see is any ranking by price, because there is none — the list is in the order you put it in, not sorted cheapest first.
You see none of it. Reservations are hidden from the people the list belongs to, so the day itself still holds surprises.
Honeymoon and other contributions, without a fee
This site handles no money at all, takes no percentage and stores no bank details. That is the honest reason a contribution here costs nothing, and it changes how you write one. List it as a wish in plain words: "A night in Lisbon, any amount welcome" or "Towards the dining table we have picked out".
A guest reserves it like any other gift and then arranges the money with you directly: a bank transfer, a payment app, an envelope on the day. Do not put your account details on the list itself, because anyone with the link can read it; a note saying "ask us for the details" does the job.
If you want guests to be able to find it
Lists are hidden from search engines by default, because most of them carry a person’s name and are meant for the people who hold the link. A wedding is the one case where you might want the opposite: a guest who has lost the card types your names into a search engine and finds the list.
On the list’s edit page there is a switch marked "Let search engines find it". Turning it on makes your names and everything on the list public and adds the page to the site map; the page tells you this before it flips. Switch it off again after the wedding if you would rather the list went quiet.
Gift list etiquette, briefly
Most of the anxiety around wedding lists comes from a handful of unwritten rules. Written down, they are short.
- Mention the list on an insert card or the wedding website, not on the invitation itself, and lead with "no gift expected".
- Never mention amounts, totals or who has given what. The list shows each price and nothing else, which is as far as it should go.
- Guests who cannot attend are under no obligation to give anything; the list is there if they want it.
- Thank-you notes go out within a few weeks and name the gift. Since you never see who reserved what, the card that arrives with the present is your record; keep them together.
It ends when the wedding does
A wedding list is a one-off, not a recurring one. Give it the date and the page shows guests how long they have left. Afterwards it simply stops counting; you can leave it up as a record or clear it out.
Can two people share one list?
Yes. The list lives under one account and one link, and you can both add to it by signing in with the same details. There is no separate couple account to set up.
Can we ask for money towards something instead of an object?
You can list it as a wish in plain words — a contribution to the honeymoon, for example. The site does not handle payments, so guests arrange that with you directly.
Will guests see how much everything costs?
They see whatever price you put on each item, and nothing else. There is no total, no running tally, and no sorting by price.
What if somebody buys something not on the list?
Nothing breaks. The list is a suggestion, not a rule, and guests who prefer to choose their own gift simply do.
Do we have to use it for the whole wedding?
No. Plenty of couples list only the awkward middle — the things too specific to guess and too small to ask about — and leave the rest to chance.
Can we print a QR code for the invitations?
Yes. Every list has a QR code page with a download button. Print it on the insert card or the table plan and guests open the list by pointing a phone camera at it.
Can guests find the list without the link?
Only if you choose that. Lists are hidden from search engines unless you turn on "Let search engines find it" on the list’s edit page. For a wedding that can be useful; the page explains what becomes public before you switch it on.
How many gifts should be on a wedding list?
Twenty to forty across a range of prices suits most weddings. Fewer feels like a bill; many more and guests stop reading. Mark two or three as top wishes.
